Big Families

Forty people eating and talking around picnic tables under the walnut trees in a family orchard. The aunts named Gertrude, Elsie and Helen, the uncles Chet, Ralph and Jim, and all the rest of the family bringing together food and laughter.  No liquor needed to added to have a great time in the 1950’s. I still remember great music, fun games and running free on the farm when everyone decided it was time for a Sunday picnic. There was no drama and no one really expected much from the other people there.  The host provided a house and everyone else brought the food and merriment.

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For some reason family get-togethers are no longer a picnic.  Families live all over the world and when they come together or try to come together there are underground stresses and tension is in the air.  Maybe it was better that no one was allowed to use the house, outhouses were common and you drank water out of the hose when you got thirsty. The host or hostess was not expected to provide everything and if there was anything to alcoholic to drink it was cheap beer, not the $10 for six you have to buy now or fresh made lemonade.

It was post-war and everyone was just happy to be alive. Bring that forward some fifty years and it is a different world. There not lots of aunts and uncles around, there are combined families that really don’t know each other and don’t seem to want to try to know each other. Everyone has their own agenda.  They arrive at the host house with nothing in hand, as they are family and you as patriarch should take care of everyone, even if they are grown adults.

This summer has been interesting.  I have my six year-old granddaughter for the summer, which is lovely, but a little tiring at my age.  Thank Heavens for Summer Camp, where she goes weekdays and has a wonderful time.

My three sons and one wife came to visit the same weekend for the first time in many years and it was great to catch up. We went to bed early and they spent the night by our new beach side fire pit. I discovered in the morning, that our fire pit can get too hot and melted the boards directly under it, so I placed concrete pavers to alleviate the problem and cleaned up the mess left behind.

The next weekend, my husband’s two sons, one wife, his daughter and husband with two daughters arrived. Once again, we did a big barbecue and provided lots beer and wine. The girls and my husband and I retired early while the group stayed up most the night around the fire pit. Once again in the morning, I cleaned up the mess discovering a few more burn marks and said nothing to any of the group.

I am discovering at a rather old age that family get-togethers do not often go as well as one might think. It certainly is not the 1950’s, when even adult children respected their parents. They seem to think house rules are not meant for family members, and a couple think the house belongs to them too, even though none of them were raised in this house that I designed and built while single after my own sons had lives of their own.

It is a concept I am having a hard time wrapping my head around. And now at the age of almost sixty-eight I have been called a “Fucking Bitch” for the first time in my life because I would ask you take you shoes off in the house, please don’t take good crystal to the beach, please only eat in the kitchen, dining room or outdoors and dogs are okay to sleep above in my studio, but not on our new carpet. My sons have no problem with this; and I guess the bonus is, I can take one thing off my Bucket List, being called a Fucking Bitch before I die.  Got to find humor in life.

It is so easy to write a quick email when you are angry and send it. Phone calls may actually give the party on the receiving end a chance to explain themselves before they are crucified via email. There is no turning back with email. Press that send button and it is history.  Letter writing and thank you notes are virtually a thing of the past. Social Media rules the day, and I am not sure it is such a good think.

Recently I blocked  a couple family members that told me how much, not just that they hated me, but how much they hated me, and they wonder why I blocked them on FB.  Really, do I need to share what makes me happy with someone that dislikes me that much.  I don’t think so. It is an interesting place to be in our culture, as never before could hate be so easily shared.  I am not sure blogging is the best venue either and maybe just writing in a journal and keeping it to yourself is better. There are consequences for everything we do, but what is funny is that there are consequences for what we don’t do and people think we did.

Big Families

Aging in a Young World

Today I was reading about a young couple that had lost two babies before finally being blessed with two beautiful boys.  They write a blog about the experience at age 26 that tells of their trials and now how it is to raise their two young sons.  I think it is fabulous that they now have a family they can enjoy and was totally intrigued that they could support their family in a very nice manner by writing a blog.

It started me thinking.  By the age of (in my case – 67) 65, if you have had an interesting life at all, you have had lots of ups and downs, happinesses and sadness, challenges with defeats and hopefully more challenges with successes.   There is a growing population of maturing adults as medicine improves and we get to enjoy aging in a much healthier manner.

Why not write a blog about aging in our society? There are so many stories out there that are captivating about interesting successes of the maturing adult.  Many entrepreneurial magazines tell of the successful careers of self-starters that did not begin at a young age.  There are so many benefits of being a little older, I thought maybe it might be a fascinating venue to explore.

I will call it “STEEL” as so many of us mature folks have a little steel in our hair coloring, steel in our backbone and a few have a little steel in one or more of our limbs.  Steel will talk about daily adventures, senior discounts, commentary of being older in a young world, fun ideas for retiring, life stories we have lived through and hopefully make a difference to those of us that are “seniors” or will be soon.

Aging in a Young World

Artwork in its new home

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For the last about 15 years I have been enjoying the creative pastime of painting and drawing.  Over the years I have sold many pieces and with the exception of a  doctor’s office, where I helped install the work I seldom get to see it in it’s new environment.

The second photo is of a piece I sold at Interiors of Edmonds and the new owner was kind enough to share a photo of it hanging in her lovely home.  All artists should be so lucky to see where their work finds a home.

Thank you for sharing.

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Artwork in its new home

Ya ma da poonoo = It’s bad for business

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Jabba the Hutt had a lot to say in Star Wars and beyond.  The name is often used as a satirical literary device and a political caricature to underscore negative qualities.  Jabba is depicted as a large, slug-like alien, that is a cross between a toad and the Cheshire Cat exemplifying lust, greed and gluttony.  Known throughout the Star Wars universe as the “vile gangster”, amusing himself by torturing and humiliating his subjects and enemies.

The physical appearance of Jabba reinforces the personality of a criminal deviant winning the award for “The Most Disgusting Alien”.  The body is a Miasmic mass with the lardaceous body periodically releasing a greasy discharge, sending fresh waves of rotten stench into the air.  Jabba’s appetitive is insatiable and often authors portray him/her treating to eat subordinates.

Jabba the Hutt is an icon in American popular culture becoming synonymous in American Mass Media with repulsive obesity.  The name is utilized as a literary device – either as a simile or metaphor – to illustrate character flaws.

In other words, Jabba the Hutt has come to represent greed and anarchy, especially in the business world. Jabba ranked #4 on the Forbes Fictional 15 list of the wealthiest fictional characters in 2008.  Not sure where it is ranked now?  Probably grew in wealth as growing in girth.

Let’s see if by some his/her ( gender is never implicated ) quotes if you can figure it out what Jabba represents in current culture?

“You weak minded fool.”

“He is my kind of scum, fearless and inventive.”

“They will suffer for this outrage.”

“Have you now, ha ha.”

“Your mind powers will NOT work on me.”

“Let them marvel at our splendor.”

“There will be no bargain, I will enjoy watching you….(die or whatever bad)”

And my favorite:

“You will soon learn to appreciate me. ”

Jabba went on to point out: “Here, like everywhere else, laughing and singing, dancing and dreaming are not exactly the whole of reality; and for one ray of sun, shining on the hut, the rest of the village remains in the dark.”

Why write about Jabba the Hutt?

How many of you have dealt with someone with even one of these qualities in business? When reading about Jabba, is there a character that comes to mind in your life?  Someone that befriends you, only to use you to their advantage and if you do not do exactly as they want you to do it, even if they are wrong or slightly corrupt, you are chastised and attempted to be made to feel like the low life they actually are.

As I grow older in our culture, it has become highly apparent to me, that people will lie under oath, tell you what they think you want to hear and basically do anything to get ahead and win whatever is important to them.  You are of use, but not of importance to people like this.

In my way of thinking that is not a good way to go through life.  If you see that happening in your life, get out of the way and let Jabba roll right on by you.

 

Ya ma da poonoo = It’s bad for business

Designing a Postcard Ad for RE

Airstream being pulled

Today while listening to classes on real estate I decided it was a good time to sketch while listening.  Multi-tasking and now I need to add color and come up with a By Line.  Anyone have any ideas?  Here are some I was thinking about:

Thinking about making a move?

Ready for a change of scenery?

Where do you want to be at this point in your life?

Don’t think I need to to exert this much energy to move?  What is your idea?

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Designing a Postcard Ad for RE

How does your day begin?

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Everyday in my home I wake up to a variation of this view.  It took a long time in life to get to the place where I wake up and can’t wait to see the view of the morning.  I kept buying and selling and then building and selling to make a profit on each so I could move to somewhere with a better view. I am in the smallest home, other than my first in Del Mar, California and I love the view the best!

Many do not understand this obsession, but living in the Pacific Northwest we have this incredible opportunity to live our lives with amazing views or using a word I heard for the first time “Fablioso” views. If you don’t live where you love the view you wake up to, then perhaps it is time to think about moving?

That is where I came in to help you find just the right view.  As an artist and a professional (ASID & IIDA) interior designer (Yes I passed the two day test) and having worked to earn a PhD in Business Marketing, I can do a great job for you!

Think of me when you think of Real Estate. Join me on one of my Facebook pages:

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How does your day begin?

Another SOLD Postcard

Maxx Sold

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Whenever I sell a home, the client receives a hand drawn pen and ink with a watercolor wash that I draw just for them.  It is framed and cards are made to match the drawing.  They are also welcome to use the drawing in any way to share with family and friends.

If you or any of your family or friends are looking to buy or sell in the Poulsbo, Kingston or Bainbridge Island, I have lived in the area for 25 years and know the areas well.  I love making the transaction a smooth and positive experience.

Hope to hear from you.

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Another SOLD Postcard

Happy Easter

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Happy Easter with new dresses for the granddaughters.  Everyone loved what I made for them this year, and it seems the Easter Egg Hunts were successful.  Brunch brings back fond memories of living in Del Mar and getting together with many friends for Pot Luck Easter Brunch.  Lots of great food with friends and children after church.

Yesterday I went to church in the morning to hear a new friend sing at her church.  It has been a long time since I have been this moved by someone singing, but my friend is amazing and should be doing this on a much bigger stage.  It was sheer pleasure to watch her perform.

After church full swing action with sharing our beachfront front yard with our neighbors family.  We may be finding extra Easter Eggs for ages, but watching then discover all the eggs we lovingly filled was a true delight.  Maybe next year Claire can came join us.  Happy Happy Easter and Here comes Spring.

Happy Easter

Back to the Sewing Room with a Little Pink Sailor Dress

Pink SailorFinally back to the sewing room to start sewing again. My booth at Red Plantation in downtown Poulsbo is up and running, and my art show is up at ChocMo in Poulsbo.

This dress would fit a 6-12 month old baby and will be in my shop after the Fourth of July

Back to the Sewing Room with a Little Pink Sailor Dress

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Renew oneIt is fun to get an idea, collect what you need and have it come together in a satisfactory manner. Sometimes, I think that brings more joy in life than many other things. Maybe that is why as humans we like doing things that bring us satisfaction. Cooking, painting and sewing are things I do that don’t involve anyone else and bring me satisfaction. My new passion and finding and renewing older furniture does the same. What brings you satisfaction?

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